our stork was lost, but we found him!!!!…
infertility + 4 rounds of artificial insemination + in-vitro fertilization FINALLY = TWIN BOYS!!!!
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It was just what the doctor ordered. Literally.
Jeff and I have been going to couples counseling since shortly after our 7th anniversary in August. We needed it. We have been through so much in the last several years that I’m honestly surprised that it took this long. Jeff and I just weren’t communicating like a married couple (with children) should be, and that freaked us out. We’ve seen far too many couples split up lately…and the thing that ultimately led to most of those breakups was communication, or lack thereof. My sis was over one night and she could see that something wasn’t right with us. She pulled me aside and told me that she believed that if she and her ex-husband would have had better communication around (or before) the time he decided to be unfaithful to her** that they may have been able to work things out. That freaked me out. I took their divorce a lot harder than I thought I would have, and couldn’t imagine going through that myself. We finally had the family and the life we had always wanted, and I was fighting for it, dammit!
**I just want to add that him betraying their marriage vows had nothing to do with her not wanting better communication, he’s the jackass that wouldn’t go to couples counseling with her. Idiot. His loss.
Thankfully, Jeff was 100% on board – we just wanted our marriage back. We weren’t naive enough to think it’s ever going to be the same as it was before kids, before infertility, before any responsibility…we just wanted “us” back. We didn’t want to end up being one of those couples who stays together for their kids, or because it’s “comfortable”, we just needed a little reminder as to why we fell in love and got married in the first place. The good news is that it’s working! We’ve been seeing our therapist every week or two since the beginning of September, and we’ve already made so much progress with our communication. I would say we couldn’t be happier, but I know that’s not true – we can be happier…and we will be. Soon. I should add that our therapist tells us almost every time she sees us that we’re her “non-urgent” couple – meaning if we can’t get in to see her every two weeks, she’s certain we’ll be okay…unlike some of her more “urgent” couples. I don’t know if this is bad or selfish or whatever, but that makes me feel good to hear. =)
Mid-October we met up with some of our favorite people in the whole wide world. You’ll remember Jenny and Brian’s twin boys from the pumpkin patch last year…
I think we’re going to have to make this a yearly thing. One, because the boys are so.freaking.cute together, and two, because I seriously cannot get over the gawks and comments from complete strangers we get when the eight of us are out together.
And for old time’s sake, a photo of our little pumpkin-heads…
We love the time we get to spend with Jenny, Brian, and their beautiful boys – it’s a shame that they live in northern Colorado…it’s far enough away to make it a production to get to and from there with two little monkeys, but at least they aren’t *too* far away.
The week after the pumpkin patch reunion, we celebrated my adorable nephew’s 3rd (yes, THIRD!) birthday.
In keeping with tradition, I made Asher’s cake again this year – this time in the shape of a rocket ship. It was soo much fun to make, and Ash loved it, so mission accomplished.
Asher’s birthday this year will be the last birthday we celebrate without the addition of his little SISTER, who will be arriving sometime late next month/early January. We couldn’t be happier to finally be getting a little girl to spoil and love on – and it will be so nice to have a baby around again…because as much as I hate admitting it, our boys just aren’t babies anymore.
The day after Asher’s birthday party, I hopped on a plane and flew to New York City to participate in a Satellite Media Tour which focused on RSV and Prematurity Awareness. It was a HUGE honor, as I was chosen out of a group of family (preemie) bloggers to conduct the interviews with one of the most prominent neonatologists in the country, Dr. Sergio Golombek. It felt so great to spread the word about something I am obviously very passionate about, and Edelman (the PR firm that represents MedImmune, the manufacturer of Synagis, the RSV medication that Max and Wes were denied because of the new AAP guidelines) flew me out early so I also got to see my cousin and an old friend while I was in the city.
We did the interviews in the same studio where “Dan Rather Reports” used to shoot – how cool is that!? I got to the studio at 6:15 Monday morning, and went straight to hair and makeup. Kristin from Jersey did things to my hair and makeup that I could only dream of doing. I didn’t have bags under my eyes for the first time in AGES…and she wouldn’t give up any of her secrets, dammit! I will say that having makeup done for HDTV is weird – it was airbrushed on, and I felt like I had about an inch of makeup on, but I’ll be darned that it looked fantastic on camera. She’s a professional for a reason, I guess!
After doing 27 interviews, both on TV and radio, I was spent and ready to get home to my little guys. I took an earlier flight in hopes to make it home in time to read them their nighttime stories, but the wind in Chicago had other plans for me, and I didn’t make it home until late that night. All in all it was an amazing experience, and has opened up other doors to speak about prematurity awareness, so I am very excited about that. MedImmune has chosen us as their “spokesfamily” for an inter-company campaign called “Understanding the Payer and Enhancing Patient Access” which they will come shoot in the middle of next month. This is a HUGE deal for us and preemie families everywhere, because it could very well be the start of some changes in patient access to Synagis. More on that later, I won’t bore you with the details now. =)
The weekend after I got back was Halloween. And oh my gosh, the CUTENESS! Max and Wes were so cute in their little costumes…even moreso than last year I think. I’ll let you be the judge…
We “celebrated” Halloween by going to a Halloween celebration at Northfield Stapleton (a local mall) in the morning, and then “trick-or-treating” (to four of our neighbors’ houses) that night. My parents were here, and they had so much fun out with their little lion and chicken!
(and after a looooooooooooooooong afternoon nap)
That night, Max and Wes had their first taste of candy (ever), and of course, they loved it! They split a Reese’s peanut butter cup, some Twizzlers, and a few peanut butter M&M’s. I know they say the whole “sugar-high” thing is a myth, but oh my goodness…those little punks didn’t go to bed until nearly 9 that night! It was such a fun time with our little guys, I just can’t wait until next year when they actually “get it” (and we can take them ToT’ing to more places, therefore gathering more candy for Jeff and I – it’s all part of our master plan).
And there’s October in a nutshell. I hope you all enjoy the photos!